No Sense Friday: Forget Authority

Who we listen to depends on who will talk to us

Remember when you were a kid and first learned how to draw? Oh, the artworks you made! You didn’t even need a model or a scene - you just made it all up!

And every once in a while, you walked up to your mom or dad and said: “Look! I made this for you!”

“Aww, that’s so cute honey, this’ll go right on the fridge!”

The fridge?! Are you serious?! Ohmygodthankyousomuch!

Yeah, I remember. Good times. What happened?


My friend Luke wants to make his own little newsletter. But then he said this:

“Who am I to talk about parenting?”

I said: “Well, you’re a parent and you care. So why wouldn’t you?”

Between 4 and 40, somewhere along the way, we get the lost. We forget that all we have to do is care, and we focus on authority. But that’s not how it works.

Life will always be about the pictures on the fridge.


Most of my friends don’t read my articles. But sometimes, someone will confide in me at a party, usually after a few drinks, that they really connected with one of them.

One guy put it perfectly: “It feels nice to be seen.”

That’s what your most important work will always be about. You show up with a picture and hope it goes on the fridge. “I see you. So I made this. Hope you like it.”

When you talk to a stranger at the bar and they feel seen, they’ll connect with you.

When you send out an email to another parent and they feel seen, they’ll read more.

We’re not looking for authority. We don’t care where the pictures come from. We want to feel humbled. We want to feel seen. Someone made something for us. Wow!

But weren’t the pictures just doodles? Wasn’t the email kinda clumsy? Wasn’t the guy a nerd? Of course. But that’s not the part that matters.

The part that matters is that you cared. That you took responsibility. Without asking.

You showed up and saw me and then you dared. To be vulnerable. To go out on a limb and make something for me. A joke, perhaps. Or a painting. Or a tiny moment of connection. But that was enough.

So I can’t wait to put it on the fridge.

-Nik


About No Sense Friday: Most people live for Friday. Relaxing on the weekend is fine, but we can’t just waste it away every time. That’s why Friday is the most important day to call out things that make no sense. Because in a way, the concept of ‘Friday’ itself makes no sense.

A good life is lived every day, not just once a week.


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