Gratituesday: Use Your Gifts

Self-improvement is a touchy industry.

Many in the space rely on the premise that there’s something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you. It’s a cheap trick to get you to buy things. But no book, course, coach, or fitness program can fill a hole that only exists in your mind.

No one is perfect, of course. We all have our flaws. But working from a place of confidence to continue to grow and improve is different from hoping to fix an internal problem with an external result.

Take your career. A good employer will not just give you work, they’ll tell you which areas you need to improve in and how you can amend your skill set. A great employer will figure out what you’re already good at and allow you to focus on just that.

The good employer is worried about her employees. She wants them to stay. So she wants them to get better, but not too good. The great employer knows that, once you’re ready to fly, you’re bound to move on - and that’s okay. Because it’s her job to ensure her roles are taken care of, not yours. Your job is to grow wings.

The question is why aren’t you trying to do that already? At the end of the day, you are your employer. So why don’t you focus on your strengths?

Don’t lament your gifts. Use them.

Here’s a diagram that really helped me figure out my own career. I developed it myself based on other personality tests. I call it The Freedom Diagram. TFD. You can use that acronym to remember its parts: Talent, Fun, and Demand.

You need all three for a career that works. Try imagining a job in which you have just one or even two. It won’t work. You’ll always be either poor or miserable.

But when you’re not tall enough to play in the NBA, you weren’t born with the wrong genetics. You’re just not meant to play in the NBA.

Forget the gifts you were never given. Look at the ones you have. They’re amazing. Don’t waste them. Figure out how to support them - and then conquer the sky.


About Gratituesday: By Tuesday, we're deep into thinking about what we seek. That's why it's a great day to remember what we already found. Gratitude has many benefits, but, mostly, it's an exercise in shifting our perspective. Instead of focusing on what's missing, we can focus on what we have.

And we'll be much calmer for it.

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