Forgiveness Wednesday: Out of Character

Mike Ross is a good man whom bad things have happened to. He’s a lawyer, but not a real one. He’s loyal, but naïve. He wants everything at once, but often, that’s exactly why he loses it all.

In one particular episode of Suits, the show he stars in, the thing he keeps losing is his phone. That makes no sense at all. Because what Mike Ross also is is incredibly smart. Like, I-have-a-photographic-memory-smart.

Why would a guy like that keep forgetting where he put his phone? It’s so out of character. But the more I observed, the more I noticed: He does other things that don’t fit the script either.

One time, he starts an affair on a whim. It’s very unlike him. Another, he lets himself get blackmailed. Usually, he’d just outwit the attacker. Why does he do that? Why did the writers of the show let all these oddities slip through the cracks?

And then it hit me: They didn’t. They put them there. Because what Mike Ross is, much more so than a character on a TV show, is human. Falling out of character keeps him interesting. It’s what we do.

We have this idea of who we want to be. The perfect version of our character. Of course, we’ll never get there. But that’s what keeps us - life - interesting. Who wants to be 100% predictable? Who wants to eliminate chance?

This isn’t to say we shouldn’t fight hard to be our best selves. In fact, we’ll always have to. But we should accept that, even if we do, we’ll always pull the odd move here and there. That’s something to celebrate, not regret.

When you forget your phone, call the wrong person, or miss the deadline you never miss, don’t beat yourself for being unpredictable. Accept that you’re human. Forgive yourself, then get back into the picture.

You’re a star, after all. And the show must go on.

-Nik


About Forgiveness Wednesday: No matter how the week starts, by Wednesday, we’ve had enough time to kick ourselves. We’re human. We make mistakes, we regret them, and we blame ourselves. But the only way we can keep moving on is if we forgive ourselves and those around us. So every Wednesday, forgiveness is what we’ll practice.

Let’s be kind to ourselves so we can succeed.


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